In 1972, McLeod and Chaffee studied the different methods families used to watch media, and raised the theory of Family Communication Patterns. Later, Fitzpatrick and Ritchie (1994) further studied and enriched the theory. There are two key
factors that influence family communication: conversation orientation and conformity orientation (Koerner & Fitzpatrick, 2002). A consensual family is high in both conversation and conformity orientations; a pluralistic family is high in conversation orientation and low in conformity; a protective family is low in conversation orientation and high in conformity; a laissez-faire family is low in conversation and conformity orientations (Koerner
& Fitzpatrick, 2002). What influences do different family types cast on children? One study showed that children had negative emotions when entering college, if they were raised in a conformity-orientation-family (DorranceHall et al., 2017). This is because when parents force their children to obey what the parents think is right, the support and encouragement children feel from parents would decrease (Koerner& Maki, 2004). If
a family scores higher in conversation orientation, a child in that family will be more likely to discuss sensitive topics with their parents, such as sex and alcohol (Booth-Butterfield& Sidelinger, 1998). Children can also handle better in a relationship if they are raised in more conversation-orientation family (Koesten, 2004). By Nancy Li References Booth-Butterfield, M., & Sidelinger, R. (1998). The influence of family
communication on the college-aged child: Openness, attitudes and actions about sex and alcohol. Communication Quarterly, 46(3), 295–308. Dorrance Hall, E., McNallie, J., Custers, K., Timmermans, E., Wilson, S. R., & Van den Bulck, J. (2017). A cross-cultural examination of the mediating role of family support and parental advice quality on the relationship between family communication patterns and first-year college student adjustment in the United States and Belgium. Communication Research, 44(5), 638–667. Fitzpatrick, M. A., & Ritchie, L. D. (1994). Communication schemata within the family. Human Communication Research, 20(3), 275-301. Koerner, A. F., & Fitzpatrick, M. A. (2002). Toward a theory of family communication. Communication theory, 12(1), 70-91. Koerner, A. F., & Maki, L. (2004). Family communication and social support. International Assosiation for Relationship Research Conference, 1–39. Koesten, J. (2004). Family communication patterns, sex of subject, and communication competence. Communication Monographs, 71(2), 226–244. by Jamie C. Williamson, PhD A new school year is a perfect time to refresh your approach to parenting and renew the way you interact with your kids. As kids grow and change, your family communication patterns should change, too. Back-to-school means back-to-routines for children and their parents or caregivers. In anticipation of this annual change, insightful parents adjust their family routines based on their children’s age, disposition, and learning needs. Bedtimes, homework, extracurricular activities, chores, screen time, friend time, meal times, and family time all get adjusted to match a growing child’s needs. Establishing routines and expectations helps to decrease stress and create a smooth, predictable family life. So, this is all good….Probably even necessary for healthy child development and parental sanity. Families also benefit when parents and caregivers review the way they interact with their children and make similar age-appropriate adjustments in family communication patterns involving parental encouragement of two-way conversation and parental expectations for conformity of attitudes and values. Family Communication PatternsConformity Orientation denotes the degree to which children are expected to obey their parents without question and express similar attitudes, beliefs, and values. High Conformity families express similar attitudes, beliefs, and values and try to avoid conflict. So, they seem harmonious. But, may not be under the surface. Low Conformity family members express highly divergent attitudes, beliefs, and values and do not shy away from conflict. So, these families seem discordant. But, may actually be more supportive of each other differences than high conformity family members. Conversation Orientation designates the degree to which parents and children openly express their differing points of view and remain supportive of each other in the process. High Conversation families encourage members to discuss issues and alternative attitudes, beliefs, and values. Low Conversation families discourage (and often sanction) voicing divergent opinions and refrain from open discussion. Instead, children are expected to think like their parents and do as they are told, without question. With Conversation Orientation and Conformity Orientation in mind, Ascan Koerner and Mary Ann Fitzpatrick identified four types of families, which I have depicted in the “Types of Families” graphic below.
Create Age-Appropriate Family Communication PatternsSome relationship scholars argue that none of these four family communication patterns are better or more productive than the other types, saying “what works for some families will not work for another family”. But I disagree. My research on family conflict, my experience helping families solve problems, and my university-level teaching have convinced me that children need to learn how to formulate their own attitudes, beliefs, and values and express their opinions in a civilized manner before becoming adults. And, I believe the best way for children to develop moral reasoning and learn to express themselves appropriately and effectively is through age-appropriate interaction at home In fact, I’ve numbered the Family Communication Patterns 1-2-3 in the order that is likely to work best for most children as they move from pre-school through high school, with parents determining the appropriate pace of skill development for their child. (Please note that I have intentionally left out #4 Laisser-fair Families because this family structure seems inappropriate for school-age children. The Laisser-fair approach ignores the interdependence of people who share a history, space, and life together, so it is likely to be dysfunctional for an all-adult family, as well). Here is your challenge:As part of crafting your new back-to-school routines, review these Family Communication Patterns with your parenting partner, whether you live together or not. Think about which combination of conversation and conformity is appropriate for your child’s age, temperament, and learning needs. Then plan time in your new routines that encourage the family interaction you believe is appropriate for you and your child. If your children are old enough, let them participate in the decisions about how your family will balance conversation and conformity this school year. You can “work it out” together. Let me know if I can help. I am a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator and Gottman Methods Couples Counselor. You’ll find me at Amity Mediation Workshop, a mediation practice specializing in “friendly divorce” mediation and family mediation, as well as Marriage Revitalization and Family Dynamics Mediation for families of all configurations. Family Dynamics Mediation re-calibrates communication among family members in a way that restores amity in your home. If you liked this blog post, SIGN UP NOW for my “Work it Out – Relationship Tips” emails packed with practical, helpful, and fun relationship guidance that you can really use to help your relationship work. SIGN UP NOW Which type of family has high conversation orientation?A pluralistic family is high in conversation orientation and low in conformity. Open discussion is encouraged for all family members, and parents do not strive to control their children's or each other's behaviors or decisions.
Which type of families are low in conversation but are high in conformity orientation?A consensual family is high in both conversation and conformity orientations; a pluralistic family is high in conversation orientation and low in conformity; a protective family is low in conversation orientation and high in conformity; a laissez-faire family is low in conversation and conformity orientations (Koerner ...
Which type of family is low in conversation orientation and low in conformity orientation?Laissez - faire families: These families have both low conversation orientation and low conformity orientation. In these families, parents have little, if any, communications with their children and allow them to make their own decisions (17, 18).
Which type of family is high in conversation orientation and low in conformity orientation quizlet?Families that are high is conversation orientation and low in conformity orientation.
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